Silliness

‘You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.’ ~Buddha

Yes I do. We all do. Can you imagine if everyone in the world loved and was affectionate with themselves? What a different place the world would be! I'm working on loving myself, snuggling myself and feeling the fullness of not needing external love to feel validated. 

Validation is something we all strive for. Often in all the wrong places. Seeking validation via the opposite sex is one of the most common. Using them to build our ego and make us feel good. Whether subtly by dressing well and seeking compliments or more blatantly by pursuing casual relationships and getting people to fall for us. 

Part of me wants to deny that I do this, but why else do I put on makeup and wear sexy clothes. Yes, it makes me feel good about myself to a degree but it also has a strong underlying desire to get attention from men.

The older I get, the more I see through the silliness of seeking an ego boost through others. The more I see that connecting with people should be about being open to their spirit and a feeling of connection rather than about a superficial need to feel appreciated and valued. 

I also realize more and more how ridiculous it is that young people spend so much time trying to impress each other. Trying to stay young in appearance. Dieting, exercising, having beauty treatments, plastic surgery, the list goes on and on of all the ways we work to try and hold on to the attractiveness and appeal we once had. It's sad really. This desperate resistance to aging and change.

More and more I see how ridiculous it is that we judge one another by physical appearance. How insignificant and ridiculous that aspect of people is. Why do we place so much emphasis on something so unimportant?